I order from lots of different sites but ill pick one that has the best variety of it all that way you dont gotta place like 5 orders. All of this stuff is from
www.autogeek.net
For washing:
http://autogeek.net/washing.html
I recommend 1Z einszeit perls shampoo. Lots of lubricity and leaves the highest level of gloss compared to other soaps.
Get the sheepskin wash mitt. Also get the grit guard. The grit guard is placed in your second bucket thats full of only water. You dip your mitt in the bucket of clean water to wash it every time you finish a panel. The grit guard traps the dirt and prevents it from getting swooshed back up so you dont pick it up with your mitt. Never, ever, ever, wash your car with only one bucket. Thats how swirls are created.
Also pick up a couple of 'cobra guzzler waffle weave towels' for drying.
Wheels and tires:
http://autogeek.net/tirewheelcare.html
The best wheel cleaner in the market hands down is P21 gel wheel cleaner. Also get the '8 inch montana boars hair brush' to clean the wheels safely without scratching them. A great tire shine is poorboys world tire dressing. Poorboys world also makes a great wheel sealant which is excellent in protecting the wheels.
For clay I recommend meguiars professional detailing clay.
http://autogeek.net/megovclay.html
Now youll need a good quick detailer to use as lube for the clay and to use after a wash to remove waterspots you missed with drying or just to give it some more gloss.
http://autogeek.net/optimum-instant-detailer-17oz.html
For a sealant thats easy to apply and looks great I recommend this one.
http://autogeek.net/duragloss-aquawax--951.html
Optimum also makes a great spray wax you would use after the aquawax.
http://autogeek.net/optimum-spray-wax.html
I prefer spray products cant you tell?
Get as many microfiber towels you can.
http://autogeek.net/mictow.html
Glass cleaner -
http://autogeek.net/glass-cleaner.html
Thats pretty much for the exterior without a buffer. When you do get that I recommend you get a kit as youll need a backing plate, and several different color pads. This is an ok kit.
http://autogeek.net/hk7424.html It has the white pads which is enough for your car.
When you get youll need a polish thats aggressive enough to remove swirls but not enough to remove so much clear coat. This one best suits your needs.
http://www.detailersdomain.com/index.asp?PageAction=VIEWPROD&ProdID=424
Lots of stuff I know but its well worth it. I also recommend looking at these articles to help you understand how exactly to do everything and the do's and dont's of car washing.
http://www.autogeek.net/detailingtips.html
Also check out the detailing forums to learn some more on different products and techniques.
www.autopia.org/forums
Let me know if you guys have any other questions.