ok i think i figured it out, but i need someone to confirm before i wreck the car. I realised i didn't need to "plug in" the relay, but i can put wires
to and from the relay. the thing i need to power is a single LED that is 30 mA. ive got the power source to trigger the relay on/off. and i know a way to ground it. my real problem is getting the power/power source. looking at the fuse box, theres only one 30 amp fuse. and the relay is 30 amps. this is the part im not sure about. can i put an "add-a-circuit" on that 30 amp fuse and the second slot would provide the 30 amps i need for the relay. would that work?