So i've had my Fit for about a month and a half and absolutely love it. it's the first brand new car i've ever owned, and i couldn't be happier. well last nite, one of my friends was following me to a restaurant and we were stopped at a light and she hit me! WTF?? we'd already been stopped for like 10 seconds, facing up hill and she was driving a stick, so there should be no reason for her to hit me, at least in my mind. so being the good friend that i am, i decide to not get the police involved, cuz i'm sure she doesn't need a ticket and a boost in insurance prices.

regardless, i was so mad that i knew that if i said anything to her, it's not going to be censored at all. so she tells me that she'll pay for it, and i'm like "i know" and i leave. now all of our mutual friends are mad at me cuz they think i over-reacted. sure, it's just a few scrapes and cracks in the bumper cover, but i've been driving for 8 years and never had anything happen before, why now? why one of my friends? why does everyone think it's ridiculous that i'm protective of my car? my best friend (who also drives a Fit) said that he might have killed her, maybe a little bit of an exaggeration, but you get the idea.

what would you have done in this situation? would you have gotten the cops involved? would you have let cussed her out, kicked her ace, anything i didn't think of? let me know!

 

See that problem is the "she" part of your post you should have been behind her j/k.

Sorry to hear about the accident. Just explain to your friends that you love your car and it made you really mad that she hit your first basically brand new car.

I get pissed as hell of even the smallest door ding and some people don't even care so I know how you feel.

You just got to take a deep breath and remember that a friendship with a good person is worth more than a few scuffs that can be fixed.

 

When you get older, I promise you your memories will be more about your friends than what car you're driving. Just take a chill pill, and enjoy the holidays with your family and friends. Good bumpers are easily replaced, but good friends are not. Peace!!

 

well if she had the car in first gear and she forgot that it was and took her foot off the clutch, the car would jump forward and hit you.

Anyways, when a friend hits you, it's always awkward because your getting money from your friend to fix your damages. Just be lucky it's just a bumper and nothing more cuz i've seen friendships end because of an accident that had to go through the insurance or were price jacked up all the way. If she is going to pay for the damages, just don't jack up the price (don't make her overpay for anything, just the price of the damage so don't try to sneak in extra dough for some rims or something) cuz that's the worst thing u can do to a friend, especially if they are close.

From what i read, it seems like your very violent lol. If you didn't act like you normally would (cursing, fighting, etc...) then i think you handled it very smoothly, but then again, i'm only reading text.

BTW your not the only person that is protective of your car, i am also =] and i bet almost everybody that owns a new car is. I once waited 3 HOURS in my hospital parking lot waiting for the person that opened their door into my side view mirror (they scratched it DEEP and i couldn't buff it out) and they left no courtesy note or anything.

 

you should have gotten the police involved. if she had hit some stranger's car, she'd be in trouble. take the car to a few bodyshops, see what it'll take to replace the damaged parts. the best way to do it is to go through insurance. my brother's car was parked on the street. it was hit by a uhaul truck. well, he had a damaged fender, adn got $1200 from the lady's insurance company.

 

Nice post- over the heads of many, but you speak the truth.

 

This is kind of like getting in a fight with a midget. If you lose, you get made fun of because a midget kicked your ass. But if you win, then you are an ass for beating up someone that little.

Take it as a learning experience and cut your friend a little bit of slack. It will be beneficial in the long run.

 

I'd be pissed and all but I wouldn't have left. The image that leaves is just one of being irrational. I would have treated it like a normal accident most likely. That is what insurance is for. If she doesn't want a higher insurance rate than she should be more attentive while behind the wheel.


Plus hello JDM shorty bumper and you dont have to pay for it. Whats the problem here? really?

 

trust me i know how you feel. my girl friends day back into my car when it was parked with a 4runner. i just told him its okay and then i left. i was pissed off, but i couldnt really show it becuase it is...my girl friends father.

it left me with a rear door crushed. even though it will get fixed. we all know it is never the same . its really hard to paint match a milano red car.

 

Great words.
Call her and apologize.

You'd think it wouldnt be. Milano is nothing to mix. It has no pearls, metallics, nothin. Tiny add of one color will result in a shade off.

I have a whole pint of MR in a brand called Spies and Hecker. Its great paint but in the can it looks way to rich/dark. My front lip was painted in cheap Matrix paint. The color is matched perfect.

 

dude that sux... i dont think u rly did nething wrong...u were mad and to avoid venting on her u left... not a big deal... shes gonna pay for it its really no biggy... i know how hard it is for friends to understand the love you have for your car... my friends dont get mine... wen sum moron backed into me and made a tiny dent i flipped a shit... they were all like its so tiny you shouldnt even get it fixed.... and i was irate!!!!! some ppl just dont appreciate nice things... or they are jelious... GL with the whole situation... keep us posted

 

i would get it fixed, give the girl the invoice and have her reimburse you.
even if you dont use your insurance let your agent know wat's going on
so he/she can keep a record.

a few scrapes or not if it wasn't for the girl's stupidity or carelessness or
both (or just born an airhead), you would not have a scratch. dont cut
yourself short cause you'll hate yourself later.

 

And thats exactly what he should say when he calls her and apologizes.
If he does.

 

i think you should just talk to her. i know how you feel i would be pissed just like you, but if she's a good friend, i'm sure you can just tell her "hey sorry i overreacted, it's just my car is new and i've been trying to take care of it and..." and just explain that you wish you hadn't acted the way you had, and that all that matters is you're both ok. i don't know if this is really how you feel, but i think if you say this and you mean it, you guys will be dandy.

 

Also.....? How old are you two of you. That will have lots to do with this whole thing. It has the sound of some HSD but I have known some mid 20s peeps who still live the drama from HS.

 

That sucks man, i would be somewhat mad aswell. But its a weird situation, you dont know to be mad or just down play it even though your furious inside. I think you handled it well, you would be a complete a$$ if you got the police involved lol..Good luck on the repairs!

Tyler

 

That's what insurance is for. I'd rather loose a supposed friend by involving an insurance company for their screw up than loose a supposed friend for not paying out of pocket to fix their screw up.

Somebody you have known for a long time that you know HAS the money out of pocket NOW might be a different story but to each their own. If I did it I'd go through my insurance...

 

I think I too would have been pissed but I dont feel that I would be outwardly upset (this has happened to me twice, my buddy a life time ago in HS and my dad believe it or not about a year ago)

I would have had no reason to call the police (they only need to be "supposedly" involved if its $700 in damage and or there is an injury, in Cali) And it would have done niether of you favors. Also the police dont give a rats nads so I think it would be a waste of your time and probably theirs, and a waste of money in the long run.

It actually sounds like a small enough incident to be only very minor in rectification (just a new bumper, as they generally dont fix it unless its a fender type deal) Go get a quick quote and find out the cost if its little then just go get it fixed, if its a bunch of moooola go through the insurance companies.

I would have just probably said "thank you for the offer and I accept!"
Truly not a biggie, eventhough it feels like it now.
probably give her a ring (phone not on finger) and say that you were a bit upset and so on.

Sorry to hear about it.

and age has nothing to do with it as STUPIDITY and apologies are TIMELESS! haahaa!

just noticed you were in GA so um... ooops...

 

don't worry about justifying why you're mad to your other friends, it's none of their business (i know how circles like to stay all up in everyone's bizness). you know you're protective of your car, they should know better than to hit it.

even still, i think you did the right thing. just make sure she pays up!!!

 

AWESOME INSIGHT .....AND VERY TRUE!!!